If you have never participated in a violent relationship, it is difficult to understand why someone is to continue in place Harms way.
The last straw for me came one night as I lay in bed next to my now ex-husband. For some reason he was angry, so angry to the point he turned to me and said, "I just want to blow your (starting) brains out and leave our children orphans."
After that I could not sleep for months, even though a friend of mine has helped me and the children getout.
It was as bi-polar diagnosis in the previous year. The same threat was a year ago, but I saw it differently, because I knew he was sick. The second time, but I have not seen any excuses. He had been on medication for over a year.
I was verbally by my now ex-husband abused for almost 10 years. A few years later I started counseling and it was then that I found what he had done for me is abuse.
I closed my advice a year ago, as my two oldestChildren. Thanks to support from friends, family and my best friend, who was also coach my life, I am a happy, confident person.
My ex-husband verbally abused me for years calling me every name in the book if I do not anything, or had things his own way.
For the longest time but I did not for abuse. When I started consulting, I was told months later that it was abuse.
I did not realize how bad my self, until I entered counseling. Since my children were sentto therapy and they also had a low self esteem issues. For the longest time I thought I was useless. My son was probably hit by all, though. He was just a child when all this happened to a head. He has behavior problems that I must keep DHS had counseling and services for children. Most of it has come, however, a lack of interaction with his father. Last year was a good friend of mine went to a male mentor for him. While he still has behavior issues, my sons in totalBehavior has greatly improved.
I stayed in the marriage for my children, at least for a while. However, I have tried the advice of a divorce lawyer on three occasions during the course of three years. Every time I was told that because my husband was the breadwinner, he would remember the house and car. The first two consultations, I had only a part-time seasonal job, although most of the time I stay at home mom. Finally I could get my own transportation, and my husband was veryunhappy about it.
Of the 10 years we were together (off and got married), I know only about two weeks in total, he was sober. Some days were worse than others with his drinking. Budweiser He loved so much. I passed. Our daughter saw how he fall down many times. He paid no attention, however, that his daughter walked by to see him, would get up drooling in the computer chair, or urine on himself because he was so drunk from the chair.
When he was sober, that if he was the mostbe verbally abusive. I've learned to keep my mouth shut and just accept everything. Whenever I said, doing the wrong thing all hell would break loose. I wish she screamed and cursed at every time. There was even the time he was standing in my face and shook his hand as if he wanted to beat me.
The most common names I was called is what you would call a bitch. If it was very bad, he added, stupid (Lot) is added.
There was some physical abuse, which occasionally happened. There were signs that I amonly just saw years later during the counseling sessions.
He was mad at me twice in a week and tried to push me down the stairs (13 steps). The first time I did not see it coming, and almost caught on the railing. Second time I was able to catch the railing before he could get a good push. During this period he was also locked me out of the apartment, when I called a relative for help. When he realized who I was, he spoke to me again
A few years later, he became angrywith me again, while living in our house. We sat down to speak when I said the wrong thing. He chased me upstairs pushed me into the wall. It was a struggle, then he threw a paint can full of Kilz me that struck into the wall. The fight went into the living room, where he hit me in the face. I was able to defend in self-defense knocks out a tooth.
At this time, but I felt because I had fought back (which I thought wrongly) that I had noMerit, and I was just as guilty.
That's not true though. I did not deserve to be attacked, and I had every right to defend myself.
It was after our son was born that my ex-husband began now signs that something was mentally wrong. He had just returned to work at home. One night he came very late and early from his 12-hour shift. He was balling his eyes out and did not know why. The next day I took him to our family doctor who gave him anti-depressants.He kept him out of work for a few weeks before the medication kicked in
I can not even count how many medications were switched. No matter what he still offensive to me. It did not matter how much I cared about him, stood by his side and defended him. He swore at me still.
Surprisingly, when it comes to family, they overlooked, while some others can not be easy, it has all those involved. This part of the reason why I do not see it as the abuse was.
When I was in counseling, I have triedto work on my marriage. My husband wanted to go with me and then quit several times. After a meeting with him, my adviser, who said to focus on restoring marriages happened to me, I had to get out of me. You could say that he abused and when she told me it was ok to leave, I knew this time I could say: I have tried everything.
I stopped and threw him out. Interestingly enough, he was to accept that it was over. He moved with his mother, got a job and is working on more soberly. He continues toearnestly to take his medication. He begins to spend more time with our children, valuable time. Recently, he began to go back into the church with the help of the children.
Every now and then, while I catch up with the anger, but this time I take for myself I have learned not to allow him to have control over me, which he hates. I am no longer afraid of him.
While my story is very low, but still abuse. What I learned is that most families do not want to get involved in situationslike this. If they had more physical abuse, I am sure they would have entered
If you feel they are abused, it is best to consult with someone neutral, like a counselor or clergy. Looking for a consultant who makes the community work. My advisor received a grant for community service. Churches will be able to help you find. Some pastors do the same advisory itself.
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